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I often work with people when

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they have just had the news

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that they haven't long to live.

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This is often an enormous shock

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to them and it means that

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all their hopes and dreams for

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the future are dashed and they

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have to really reset their button

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and work out what is important

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for them to be doing in

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the time that's left.

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I would like to share the

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story of a lady I worked

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with not that long ago.

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Her daughter had been having fertility

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treatment and had just come to

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the end of her NHS allocation.

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Sadly, she hadn't been able to

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conceive.

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Her mother said, I've got a

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few savings left and I would

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just like to pay for you

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to have one more round on

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me.

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Let's see if we can do

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it this time.

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On the Monday morning, her daughter

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rang her to say, Mum, I'm

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pregnant with twins.

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There was huge joy and excitement,

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as you can imagine.

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but on the Thursday the mother

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received the news that she had

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liver cancer and really most likely

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wouldn't ever live to see the

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twins be born.

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She came to me in a

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terrible state and we had a

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chat and I remember asking her,

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how would you like to be

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remembered?

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Between us we came up with

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an idea which was very simple

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but has left a lasting legacy

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for the family.

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She recorded herself reading

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pieces for the children ranging from

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the Very Hungry Caterpillar for when

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they were tiny

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right up to some chapters of

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Harry Potter.

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She recorded them as and when

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she felt she could, and then

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we kept them all and passed

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them on to her family.

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Sadly, she didn't live to see

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the twins be born, but I've

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kept in touch with that family.

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And what has happened is that

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the boys feel they know their

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granny.

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They know her voice.

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They've seen lots of pictures of

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her.

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She's been very much a part

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of their life.

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And that legacy that she left

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behind has been incredible, not only

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for the boys to get to

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know her, for her to be

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remembered, but as part of the

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grieving process for that whole family.

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It's made such a huge difference.

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I'll be talking again about more

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things that we can do when

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life isn't going to be lasting

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as long as we'd hope.

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And I will be in touch

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again with some more of those

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stories.